We can speak positively and allow our words to impact the world.
Words have the ability to inspire, motivate or hurt … when you choose to always have a positive language palette you will be more productive and impactful in your conversations.
Replace Red flag words – A word to avoid using is ‘problem’ – this word has the ability to stop a conversation, create conflict and isn’t positive. We prefer to use the word ‘challenge’. Challenge insinuates that there is a solution, a possible outcome. Replace problem with challenge.
Stop ‘shoulding’ on people – If someone says to you, “You know what you should do?” – how do you react? The word should feels like someone else’s expectations; eliminate this red flag word.
Don’t try – The word ‘try’ doesn’t sound productive. If someone tells you they will “try and attend” your function, you secretly know they won’t be there. When you tell someone you will try it doesn’t sound confident. It is half-hearted and meaningless, not productive.
Don’t say ‘but’ – But is a connector word. No one listens to what you say before the word but; they only hear what you say afterwards. If someone says, “I like your sweater, but is that really the best color for you?” – as the receiver all you hear is II don’t like your sweater” But is often used to connect sentences. Increase your language effectiveness by eliminating the word but (and don’t be sneaky and try and replace with this ‘however’ – it works the same as but).
Stop saying, “May I pick your brains?” In the Sydney Zoo in Australia there is an amazing gorilla enclosure where you can watch a gorgeous family of gorillas caring for each other. This dreadful phrase reminds me of the gorillas at the zoo picking at each other. Please eliminate this from your language. It is not productive and often insinuates you want to get free advice or consulting from someone. A better phrase would be, “May I tap into your brilliance?” Now that sounds more productive.
Change the energy of a room – When you choose positive language you can defuse situations, and encourage and elevate the conversations in a room.
Consider your personal brand – Each of us has words and phrases we use frequently. These words become something we are known for. What words do you use frequently? These words become part of your personal brand. If you want to elevate your personal brand, consider choosing to speak positively.
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